Helping Friends or Family in CrisisIf You Think Someone You Know May Be Considering Suicide…

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Know How to be Helpful

If Someone You Know is Thinking About Suicide:

  • Be direct. Talk openly and matter-of-factly about suicide.
  • Listen to their story. Allow expressions of feelings. Accept that they feel this way.
  • Be non-judgmental. Avoid debate about whether suicide is right or wrong, or whether feelings are good or bad or the value of life.
  • Get involved. Become available. Show interest and support.
  • Let them know you care.
  • Don’t be sworn to secrecy. Seek support for yourself and the person thinking of suicide.
  • Assist the person to make a plan involving trusted people and/or professionals to help the person stay safe until they are no longer thinking of suicide.
  • Offer hope that alternatives are available but do not discount their feelings by saying things like, “you’ll feel better in no time.”
  • Take action. Remove means, such as guns or stockpiled pills.

Get help immediately. Call 1-888-NYC-WELL (1-888-692-9355) now!

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Know the Warning Signs

The following signs may mean someone is at risk for suicide. The risk of suicide is greater if a behavior is new or has increased and if it seems related to a painful event, loss, or change:

  • Talking about wanting to die or to kill themselves.
  • Looking for a way to kill themselves, such as searching online or buying a gun.
  • Talking about feeling hopeless or having no reason to live.
  • Talking about feeling trapped or in unbearable pain.
  • Talking about being a burden to others.
  • Increasing the use of alcohol or drugs.
  • Acting anxious or agitated; behaving recklessly.
  • Sleeping too little or too much.
  • Withdrawing or isolating themselves.
  • Showing rage or talking about seeking revenge.
  • Displaying extreme mood swings.
  • Giving away treasured items or pets.
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Understand Their Feelings

People In Crisis Often Feel They Can’t:

  • Stop the pain.
  • Think clearly.
  • Make decisions.
  • See any way out.
  • Sleep, eat or work.
  • Get out of depression.
  • Make the sadness go away.
  • See a future without pain.
  • See themselves as worthwhile.
  • Get someone’s attention.
  • Seem to get control.

Crisis is temporary. Things can get better.

Get Help by calling 1-888-NYC-WELL (1-888-692-9355)

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